Hello and welcome on my blog:),
I hope I can help someone, who is going through a hard time, or who is making a difficult decision. Please do not be so strict, my English is not the best. It would be nice, if you would give me a feedback.
Everyday you make decisions, a lot of small ones like „Should I drink cola, or water?“, but also bigger ones like „What do I want to do with my life?“. I think in the first case you know the answer. It seems so obviously, that water is better for your health. But is obvious to, that water is the more tasty decision. On a short view, cola is the better decision. So the logical cause is, when you want a good long term decision, drink the water, but if you did not care about future, drink what ever you want to drink in this moment. The most decisions, are between shorterm and longterm.
What I said untill now, sounds easy do you agree with it? But, we are all paradox, if we were not we would be perfect and perfection is not real. No one thinks completely left or completely right, no ones thoughts are only black or white. (Even if you are depressed, there is something, that makes you reading this text.) Without imperfections we would not exist. So the first thing you have to accept, is you and everyone else, were imperfect.
So if everything is imperfect, the logical conclusion is that; no matter how long your pro-contra-list will be, no matter how long you overthink something in your head. Your decisions will never be perfect. To be able to decide anything, you have to accept that. So you should not search for perfection, you should search for happyness. You also have to accept other decisions. Everyone is responsible for himself and the ones he or she has to care about.
What means that for you, as an individual human? There is no perfect opinion, wich is fitting for everyone, especially extreme opinions aren’t always helping you. When you can not only trust an extreme opinion, you have to think by yourself. The more individual you are, the more you have to think. No one knows you and your situation better, than yourself. So, the best decisionmaker for yourself is you. Finding a solution alone maybe is more difficult, but now the solution fits the best for you. Never forget that you are responsible, for how you deal with your problems.
Life seems unfair, but you do not know for sure, so do not act like you would know it. You make your own decisions and you are responsible for every little decision you have made and for that decisions you will make. If you understand that, you can have a happy life. Belive in yourself and not in others opinions, they will not bring you far.
Thank you so much for reading this. I hope it was helpful for you:).
I would be thankful for feedback:).